One year from today

 

This is a post about wishful thinking. Or is it about setting goals? It can be about dreaming, but it can also be about development.

Inevitably one has to accept that the two are linked, and I guess writing this post I will address both.

Let’s start with dreams. One year from today I wish to be your friend. I wish there is honesty and intimacy in our relationship, and you enjoy reading this blog. I would love to be able to devote all of my time to this and develop a useful platform for us.

On a more practical note, one year from now I want my writing to be crisp, fresh and appealing. I want to cultivate my ability to connect. Posting regularly for a year entails a lot of practice, lots of trials and errors. Hopefully a year later I will have had plenty of feedback for my improvement. My steps will be more steady and my voice more precise.

I just wish I keep getting better. So my goal for next year is a magical number of readers that will make this real.

A year from today I will be a lot more knowledgeable and experienced. Probably gone through some failures and difficulties along the way too. I’m trying to be realistic here!

And I do plan to call upon my creativity and imagination. Put them to work to prove their existence and their depth. I do believe inspiration is all around us – so it’s time to find it!

Finally, I want to make a promise. One year from today I will still be here, posting and sharing. This day next year the post will be titled One year later. In it I go back, retrace my steps and talk to you about my successes and my failures. That will be interesting!

Until next time!

How to find balance and peace and be authentic

 Balance is about peace and fairness

A state where all elements have been considered; all the different facts and opinions and feelings.

There are three distinct areas in our lives where balance can be of use:

  • our inner world
  • family relations
  • the society around us, be it politics in the office or government

 

Our inner world

It is so important that we are in peace with ourselves

I strongly feel the need to be in peace with myself, in my effort to be good to others.

  • I want to eat the cake, but be thin as well
  • I want to party all the time, but read all the books as well
  • I want to have a killer career, but never get out of bed
  • I also want a super healthy body, but never set foot in the gym

Easy, huh?

It took me years of conflict, to realise that yes, I can have it all. We can have it all; it’s all about balance. Give and take.

Stay in bed longer during weekends and not every day. Eat cake ever so often and not with each meal, visit the dreaded gym twice a week, and not every day. Read the self development book with all the wonderful tips about time management – even if it is for 15 min in the evening. By the way, 15min is still more than nothing!

Wouldn’t it be great if we could be in peace with our inner demons and the unfulfilled dreams and expectations we all deal with. Let’s just be realistic for a moment, understand and respect our own choices that led us to where we are today.

All we want is to be better isn’t it?

Relationships

Let’s think now about finding balance with regard to our close family relationships. Get over the past, focus on the present moment and find common ground with parents, children, and spouse.

My mother is never going to be the tender loving soul that hugs me all the time, but I can see now that she loves me in her own way.

My children are not going to follow my every instruction, but it’s also useful that they make their own mistakes, they have their own experiences.

As with the relationship with my husband … well he is probably never going to be the extrovert that brings me flowers and declares his devotion daily.

And it’s OK!

We need to explore the middle ground that leaves enough room for both sides to breathe and maintain their self-respect.

By all means, set a boundary but be equally prepared to respect the individuality of the other person – even if you gave birth to this person!

Outer world

It is also important to find balance in our relations with others, along the lines of office politics and even government politics. I know it is difficult sometimes, but it is imperative that we listen.

Listen to the different opinion, the strange idea, the far-fetched scenario. It takes patience and sometimes constraint but it’s necessary to listen.

I listen full of hope that the other person will then listen to me as well. Only then can we find common ground, or a common purpose, common parameters of any kind that will enable us to agree to a solution, a plan, a mutually beneficial consensus.

Finale

In order to be very honest, I would also like to add this:

I cannot really decide which is more difficult:  Peace with ourselves or peace with the others?

Peace inside would probably be a good starting point, I think.

Finding the right balance is something very important to me because I believe that this can help us avoid conflict, and elicit good relationships. It can promote progress and the synthesis of new ideas.

I wanted to write about this so we can all share this idea, and work together on finding balance and harmony in our lives.


 

I would like to thank LH ‘Daisy’ Johnson for reviewing the original form of this post, and offering valuable suggestions for it’s improvement.

Terminology of Elegance

I have a confession to make, I love dictionaries. I love exploring the meaning of those intangible words that enter our lives sometimes, and I also love finding out new words that I didn’t know existed. I enjoy thinking about the idea they contain and the feeling they convey.

Some words just mean so much even standing on their own. They don’t need to be put in a sentence.

 

So in this post I would like to share with you some of my favourite words and their meaning. My best-loved words revolve around the notion of elegance and politeness, and I would love it if you were to send me some of your own precious words, το add to my collection.

Charisma

the inner power to attract attention, admiration, and respect without being pretentious.

Serenity

an image of calmness and tranquillity coupled with confidence and moral standards.

Individuality

a disposition unique that differentiates you from others. A clear prerequisite for true elegance that has very little to do with appearance. A personal element that makes you, you!

Aesthetics

beauty and refined character.

Harmony

not just the synthesis of sounds but also a pleasing combination of feelings and ideas.

Allure

class and distinction, the quality of being attractive and spellbinding.

Enchantment

the magical effect on others when exuding charm.

Courteousness

refined attitude mixed with elegance and generosity, politeness and respect.

Propriety

choosing to adopt a moral attitude, and do the right thing; a polite social behaviour.

Amiable

being pleasant and friendly, kind and considerate.

Affable

demonstrating a character friendly and easy to talk to.

Profundity

the quality of appreciating the depth of a situation, demonstrating respect and openness.

Sagacity

the wisdom of being understanding and able to make fair judgements.

Naturalness

a disposition that is genuine, open, unpretentious, spontaneous, relaxed.

Zest

energy and enthusiasm, a secret ingredient of beauty and happiness.

 I also love the words Thoughtfulness, Consideration, Care, and Civility for the respect that they communicate towards others. I hope that you liked my words and that you will take the time to send me some of yours. I’d love to read them and maybe later on post a further list of enchanting words. Thank you!


 

I would respectfully like to mention that for the purpose of this post I utilised various dictionaries, but mostly the Cambridge English Dictionary and The Little Dictionary of Fashion by Christian Dior.

We love reading

We love the smell of paper

the sound of the turning page, the tranquillity of spending time with a book.

Our beautiful book.

We also appreciate the ability to connect with others at any time, any place. Reading is a conversation with the author, a discovery of knowledge, a journey into something new. And this can happen in so many ways.

New habits are formed today. Connectivity is everywhere. Blogs, sites, social networks; all occupy a large part of our lives. Our online activity has changed our ways of reading.

Reading has evolved so much. We read all the time now, even if it’s just colourful tweets! It is so easy to share our thoughts, to connect. The digital world is bringing us all closer together.

Our love for reading brings as all closer together.

Reading is our answer to the need to explore, to discover, to ask questions. The way reading adapts to our modern ways is proof of its reign. Proof of our intrinsic need to share stories and thoughts.